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How to be a good
wife
The following is an excerpt from a 1950s high school
home economics textbook.
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have
a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that
you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his
needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect
of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you will be
refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon
in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot
of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting.
His boring day may need a lift.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part
of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school
books, toys, papers, etc. Then run a dustcloth over the tables.
Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order,
and it will give you a lift, too.
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's
hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and, if
necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and
he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimize all the noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate
all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to
encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet
him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't
complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared
to what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable.
Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest that he
lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for
him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak
in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax
and unwind.
Listen to him; you may have a dozen things to tell him, but the
moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you
out to dinner or to other pleasant entertainment. Instead try
to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to unwind
and relax.
This goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where
your husband can relax in body and spirit.
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